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Sex is a key part of most relationships yet is a conversation topic some of us shy away from with partners. Raised not to discuss sex because it is an adult topic, we may find sex embarrassing and difficult to talk about when we reach adulthood. Sexual problems can have a long term impact on relationships and because it is a difficult topic to discuss, they often go unresolved. It is estimated roughly 40% of men and women have some form of sexual dysfunction, whether that be a hang up about their body, an inability to have sex or a deeper rooted problem with sex.
Follow these links to find out more about sexual dysfunction from the BBC and Medical Library . If you are looking for casual fun then maybe Armchair Advice Adult Dating is for you.
So what are the most common sexual problems between partners?
- Do you have differing levels of sexual desire? This is incredibly common. One partner wants sex more than the other and it can lead to arguments and resentment. The partner who wants more sex feels rejected and the partner who wants less feels pressured.
- Is there enough intimacy and romance in your relationship? Romance and intimacy play an important part in providing the reassurance and trust that underpins most successful relationships. Where there is a lack of intimacy and romance one or both partners may feel unfulfilled and dissatisfied with the relationship. Try our tips for injecting romance into your life.
- Do you or your partner have physical problems such as reaching orgasm or maintaining an erection? There can be many reasons for physical sexual problems in a relationship from distressing sexual experiences, sexual abuse, body image problems and low self esteem to underlying medical conditions and mental health issues. Some problems can be overcome by working together; others may require the intervention of a GP, sex therapist or counsellor.
- Has your sex life become so routine or uninspiring that one or both of you have lost interest? It is important that you maintain intimacy even if you are not having sex and try to talk about the situation. Here are some tips that you can try to spice up your sex life.
- Are you off sex because your partner doesn't do things as you would like? Lack of communication is one of the key reasons for problems in the bedroom. Do you wish he or she would do something different or stop doing something that irritates you? How does your partner know what you like or if you are in the mood for sex if you never have a conversation about it? You may not be ready for dirty talk in the bedroom but a complete lack of conversation will lead to unfulfilling sex for both parties. Talking is a key component in building trust and intimacy.
- Has your sex life stopped? There may be periods during your relationship when the sexual element of your relationship tails off - during pregnancy, after childbirth, during times of illness or stress. However, a long term lack of sexual contact can be very damaging. You need to get to the root of why sex with your partner has stopped. It may be that one partner has an underlying physical issue or it may be indicative of a deeper relationship problem, such as infidelity.
- Can a relationship function without sex? It is possible to have a relationship without sex if both parties agree. There are many reasons why sex may not be a necessary or feasible part of your relationship including ill health and disability. The important thing to establish is if both parties are happy not to have sex. Ask yourself these questions to see if this can work for you.
Talking about sex can be difficult, even for partners that have been together for a long period of time. Try our talking about sex exercise to encourage openness. These questions will help you to talk about sex with your partner in a comfortable and natural way.
A sex life that incorporates romance, openness and honesty is an enjoyable part of a relationship. All too often we forget that sex is about more than a physical act of intercourse, it is a way to express our feelings for another person, reaching a level of intimacy we experience with very few people in our lives.
A sex life that incorporates romance, openness and honesty is an enjoyable part of a relationship. All too often we forget that sex is about more than a physical act of intercourse, it is a way to express our feelings for another person, reaching a level of intimacy we experience with very few people in our lives.
There is nothing worse for any physician than to find a dangerous medical problem in a patient and feel powerless to help. That's how the whole country seems to feel as it hears about gloomy statistics on teen pregnancy released this month from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The findings show a 3 percent jump in teens having babies, following 14 years of decline. Many adults seem to have given up even trying to influence teen sexual behavior, and the statistics on teen sex have incited plenty of finger-pointing at sex-education programs as if they are the central solution to this very complex problem. This is the wrong reaction to what is a major public healthissue.
Viewing this as a nonpartisan, nonideological, teen health issue—which also affects some 435,000 babies born into woefully disadvantaged circumstances—what emerges in all fairness is that the 3 percent jump between 2005 and 2006 (the most recent analyzed) in births among teens between 15 and 19 years of age equals the 3 percent increase in birthrates for all women. The year 2006 was an especially fertile one in America. And one good trend is that births among girls under 15 actually fell a bit. But, parents, heed this: The birthrate among all unmarried women rose an astounding 7 percent to almost 40 percent of all births—accounting for 1,641,946 little ones. Thus, out-of-wedlock births are a trend in society at large. In fact, the birthrate for all unmarried women has risen almost without interruption for 60 years. In the 1940s, when the first baby boomers were being born, it was closer to 4 percent.
However, unmarried teenagers having babies are most apt to disadvantage both themselves and their babies for life. But still, let's give the bulk of young people some credit. Half of teens get through high school never having had sex, and many others have been largely abstinent. Teen girls in particular are aware of what is happening to their peers when they get pregnant in high school: An unwanted pregnancy puts girls in a mess emotionally, academically, healthwise, and financially.
The Kaiser Family Foundation, an independent health policy group dedicated to providing information and analysis on healthcare issues, has partnered with Seventeenmagazine to conduct national random telephone surveys of teens about sex. One survey studied teens ages 15 to 17 who practiced abstinence from sexual intercourse—more than half of all teens. Virtually all of them thought that staying a virgin in high school was a good idea, and said they hoped to wait until they were more mature and had a committed relationship before becoming so involved.
But many factors, not just one, weighed heavily on their decision. They included, in rank order from No. 2 down, concern about acquiring a sexually transmitted disease, their parents' views, sex education, religion, moral values, personal reputational concerns, and having friends who had not had sex. What was No. 1 on the list? Fear of an unwanted pregnancy.
So teens may be smarter than we think. Maybe some of the hand-wringing over sex education needs to be informed by the voices of these young people, particularly the teenage girls who have figured out that the burden of unwed motherhood is not for them or their future children.
As in most things unhealthy, from taking up smoking, using drugs, or having racked up a slew of sexual partners before finishing high school, teenage motivation and behavior ultimately come from within. And young people are clearly more health oriented and sensible than adults often give them credit for.
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